A boundary is a line that marks the limit of an area or a concept. A boundary also defines acceptable behavior within the society. There are many types of boundaries, physical, mental/psychological, and even spiritual. This past week’s show, Karma and Boundaries, discusses the karmic impact that boundaries have for all of us.
Everyone will have some type of boundary issue in their lifetime. It could be family boundary issues, school, or even work. Karma wants to know how you will handle it. When someone gets too close to us, they tend to invade our personal space, our auric field. It is ok to politely ask someone to step back a bit. It is also ok to demand someone steps back if they refused the request the first time.
Boundaries help us to define acceptable behaviors. A good example of this is the parent/child relationship. Children need boundaries. This keeps them safe, makes them feel safe and teaches them respect. Love your child enough to say no.
Yes, you might hurt someone’s feelings when you stand up and say “no” to a situation. But what is the larger picture? Karma is offering us lessons. When we stand up to a situation where someone has crossed the line, or about to cross a line, and we stop that action, it sets us on a different karmic path. By standing up and saying no, we can stop the other party from incurring negative karma AND we can also avoid incurring negative karma for ourselves.
Here is a little karmic secret: When an abusive situation arises, karma is incurred by both parties. When the person who is potentially being abused is able to put a stop to it, that person may incur positive karma for their karmic bank account. (It should also be noted that there are severe abuse cases where the victim many not have a way out, or a voice. This is an entirely different topic for a future blog/show) It also stops the offender from incurring negative karma. And that is good for all parties! For example, if your Uncle Joe loves to humiliate people at family reunions you can plan ahead. In our show, Don’t Tease the Volcano, we discuss strategies to help stop such family patterns, with the caveat, you can only change yourself.
We are spiritual beings having a human experience and karma wants to know what we have learned. Did we learn the lesson?